di.vorce (n)
1) the legal dissolution of a marriage
2) a complete or radical severance of closely connected things
Changing your name. Changing your Facebook relationship status. Referring to yourself as "divorced" instead of "in the middle of a divorce..." Just another day in the life of your average 22-year-old divorcee. The adjustment isn't as hard as I thought it would be. In fact, it's just one less thing I have hanging over my head at the moment, which is a relief. Something in my life is finally resolved.
And now, it's time to pick up the pieces of my life and move on. But here's the thing : which pieces are actually me, and which pieces are just the circumstances of my life ... things I can just leave behind now? Brayden and I discussed this once, about how he wondered if he wanted to be a doctor, of if we wanted him to be a doctor. In the end, he decided that it was truly something he wanted, and that was a piece of our marriage he took with him. So which pieces do I take?
Not quite sure where to start ...
Start with being honest with yourself, or nothing else will work.
ReplyDeleteThanks ... trying to! It's never easy, but I'm working on it :)
Deletewell i know it was hard for me to sort out who i was after my divorce, i had so many years and memories that i just didn't know who i was...you will find yourself and you will be much better for it. don't be afraid to be alone and i am here to listen if you need it.
ReplyDeleteI think that you are who you are because of experiences you have. Those experiences have changed you, yes, but there is still a foundation of you underneath. I don't think that going back to who you were before all of the divorce business happened is what the Lord would want, and I don't think that is what you are saying either. I just know that the Lord gives us challenges and experiences so that He can mold us into the person that He wants us to be. ALL of the experiences from your marriage are something that you can take with you, but it's what you do with those pieces that will help you decide what those pieces will make you.
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